She said Yes to the Date, but her Ex will be upset. What to do now?

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Xtasy1998 asks:

Girl said yes on a Date, but her Ex told her he would be angry if she went. Any Advice on what to do? I feel really let down and was already pretty excited about her saying yes after I asked her out. But all of a sudden I get this message from her telling me her Ex got super mad at her when she told him.

I feel really awkward about it. And I honestly don’t know what to do.



Demetrius says:

On Thanksgiving Eve this year, you probably have a lot to be thankful for and you really should be thankful that this woman took the time to really make it clear that she’s not worth dating. Consider yourself #Blessed and #StayHumble.

Seriously though, this is a great turn of events. How much money were you planning on spending on this date that you now get to spend on yourself, or date with a different woman? How much time did she just save you by not having to go on one, two, or maybe even three dates before you realize this isn’t the person for you? This is an incredible turn of events that worked out in your favor in the long-term and honestly I couldn’t be more happy for you. What a time to be alive!

In all seriousness, let me be clear with what I’m saying. You said you don’t know what to do, and so I’ll actually tell you: Nothing. Do nothing, don’t pursue her, leave everything the way it is, don’t try to go on this date with her. At this point you might be thinking of some reasons why you should still pursue her, because I’m sure she’s cute and all, but here’s some things to ask yourself: Why is her Ex angry with her for going on a date with her? Whatever that reason is, why did she feel it was appropriate to tell you? One step further: Why did it matter enough to her whether or not her ex would be angry if she went on a date?

I’m telling you to ask yourself these things, but really there wont be an acceptable to any of those questions that ends with you on a date with her. Listen, I’ve dated one or two women in my life, and I am still in contact with some of them. That said, if one of them told me “I’d be angry if you went on a date with someone” my reactions to that would not include me taking that anger seriously or telling my date about it. The fact that she told you about what her Ex feels about her dating means a lot, whether you realize it or not. She’s probably not over her Ex, so maybe avoid going on a date with her. There’s a lot of baggage here that you don’t need to get involved with.

That’s all there is too it. It’s not worth it to put yourself out there for someone who is still hung-up on her ex. Drop her, move on, meet a girl who doesn’t give a damn about what her Ex might think about her dating. You deserve better than that.

Good Luck Out There.

Demetrius Figueroa

Demetrius is a sex, dating, and relationship writer based in Brooklyn.

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